Introduce yourself. Who are you and what do you do?
My name’s Muireann, but everyone calls me ‘Bangs’. I’m the head instructor at a spin studio in London. I’m somewhat evangelical about living an endorphin-fuelled sweat life, so can often be found doing public speaking events around fitness. I’m also a writer; former fitness editor of ELLE magazine, now you can find my musings mainly over at my blog, bangsandabun.com
At Scarlet Ladies, it is all about sexuality. Tell us a little about yours. Are you seeing anyone right now?
Not currently, no.
Have you been on a bit of a journey or always known what you wanted?
I’ve most definitely been on a bit of a journey.
What has had the most profound impact on you and how you view yourself and your sexuality?
I was raised catholic and it’s fair to say at this point, I’m very VERY lapsed. I’d say stepping away from religion probably had the biggest impact on me. It allowed me to be more open minded and less judgemental.
What has been the most daring thing you have ever done?
Honestly? Probably joining Tinder after being vehemently against it for ages! I closed my account after about four months, ‘cause ya know, Tinder’s gonna Tinder, but that was a brave few months for me!
What’s the one thing you couldn’t live without?
Tall men. Nuff said.
Talking sex with the girls: do you share all, or keep quiet and let everyone else do the talking?
As long as I’m in a safe environment, around people I trust, I share all. And I think those conversations are actually vital to female friendships and us understanding our sexuality on a deeper level.
How did you come to Scarlet Ladies and why will you speaking on the particular topic of your event?
I was invited to an event a few months back about the female orgasm and had a great time. I’ll be speaking about being happily single because the ‘S’ words seems to be super taboo at times and I’m here to tell you, being single can be fabulous, enjoyable, enriching and a whole bunch of other adjectives I will hurl at you during the course of this talk!
Why do you think it is important that we talk about this?
Because as women, we’re made to feel that there’s something wrong with us if we don’t have a partner and that’s bollocks. And for some, this constant pressure to be in a relationship often leads to them being in unhealthy ones, just to avoid being single. Taking time to be single is vital for personal growth and I just want to remove the stigma of it.
How can a better understanding of this topic help other women?
There’s a real societal pressure for women to get married and procreate. I think women taking the time to be single and being comfortable in their singledom, can lead to nothing but good things – not least, better decision making when and if the opportunity to date rolls around again.
If you could tell your teenage self one thing you’ve learned about sex, what would it be?
It’s nothing to be ashamed of.