The idea of Scarlet Ladies was born one cold winter’s day in a coffee shop. It began as nothing more than a little meetup group where women would be able to go to feel great about themselves. We have come a long way since then.
At first, we planned to host monthly workshops covering all types of female needs. But Sarah and I, the cofounders, both recognised that whilst feminism is great at empowering women in most aspects of their life, female sexuality is still too often ignored or classed as not that important. Women are still being judged and shamed for the sexual decisions they make, and that’s why we founded a feminist company that focuses predominantly on female sexual empowerment. To make changes, we believe that we need to work on ourselves as women, and that’s why Scarlet Ladies is a female-only membership club. As Sarah always says: “A woman who is confident in the bedroom is confident in the boardroom.” We believe in empowering women in all aspects of their lives.
Fast forward nearly two years, and we are so much more than our little meetup group. Our mission has grown, and Scarlet Ladies now empowers and connects women around the world. Our community is open to all, regardless of your sexual orientation or preference. We always say it is about how you like it, not who you like it with. We believe that by destigmatising the conversation around female sexuality, we help women grow in confidence, love their bodies and live boldly in all aspects of life, without fear or shame.
Whilst sex is a juicy and hot topic for a lot of companies that host ‘sex talks’, we feel there is so much more to it than that. Sex is a basic need for ALL humans and by suppressing that part of ourselves we are ultimately suppressing a key part of our life. Sex for many women is complicated by trauma, sexual abuse, our own judgments as well as society’s judgements. So it is no wonder that so many women struggle when it comes to their sexuality.
We believe in the power of sharing ideas and experiences to change perceptions around female sexuality. We host a range of events based on our FIERCE values of Freedom, Inspiration, Esteem, Respect, Courage and Enjoyment to empower women sexually. By creating a safe and confidential space where women can speak authentically, share experiences and inspiration, we are building a community of women who are self confident and mutually supportive. For us there is no right or wrong when it comes to female sexuality, and our talks range from monogamy to polygamy, self love to body confidence, Tantra to kink … it’s everything from vanilla, to swinging from the chandeliers. Our community is diverse. Scarlet Ladies come in all shapes and sizes, representing different cultural backgrounds and experiences, from experts to ‘ordinary’ women. They are drawn together by the desire to share, open up, talk and learn about their sexuality.
We have a variety of events for every woman: whatever your level of confidence or experience:
Talk of the Town
When it comes to women’s sexuality, what is “normal”? And why is it so hard to talk about it?
Our panel discussions bring together real women to talk openly about key topics that affect women everywhere. We believe that every woman has the right to feel “normal” when it comes to her body and her sexuality. Talk of the Town events bring together women from different backgrounds, including professional therapists, sex workers and ‘ordinary’ women, for no-holds-barred conversations that empower real women to share opinions and experiences in an environment that is safe and supportive. Every month, we lift the lid on a different aspect of female sexuality, breaking down the barriers of stigma and shame.
Our FIERCE Talks change attitudes and change lives. Guided by our founding values of Freedom, Inspiration, Esteem, Respect, Courage and Enjoyment, FIERCE Talks challenge prejudices around female sexuality head-on. Every month we bring you a FIERCE woman to inspire and educate you by sharing her ideas, knowledge and experience on a topic relating to female sexuality. We believe in the power of talking to help women stand together to challenge negative attitudes, and transform the lives of women from all walks of life.
Off the record
For curious Scarlet Ladies who want to explore their sexuality further, our members-only ‘Off the Record’ events give you the unique chance to experience the best of London’s x-rated sex-positive events and locations in the safety of a supportive group. Dip your toe in the water of new places or new experiences, in a setting that is fully confidential and in the company of likeminded explorers. Previous events include Killing Kittens 10th birthday and Club Femdom.
Exclusively for members and special guests, Scarlet Social is London’s most exclusive mid-week girls night out for sex-positive women. Our conversations are chilled-out, easy-going and confidential, so you can ask for advice, share experiences, or just relax with a drink or two and enjoy the company of some amazing women. We’ll begin with a facilitated introduction to get the conversation started, and from there it’s up to you: talk and listen, share as much or as little as you like and go home feeling refreshed, empowered, and glowing with positive energy. Together, we can normalise the conversation around female sexuality.
So whether you’re motivated by our mission to support other women, you’re on a journey of personal development or you just want to shout YES to everything that we stand for, Scarlet Ladies welcomes you.