What's it like?

First times are always daunting, right? If you want to know what you’re letting yourself in for, read on. We asked some of our members and guests to remember their first times with Scarlet Ladies and what it meant for them.


Benny’s first event was a Scarlet Circle: our private, members-only women’s coaching sessions where women find the space to explore the issues that affect them personally.

I know this was a fundamental turning point for me … I can’t be made to feel awkward or inadequate anymore


Romany is a single PhD student and a super-orgasmic woman. She joined us for the first time at our special edition Talk of the Town: Super Orgasm event:

All of us felt comfortable being honest about our experiences


Kate Monro

Kate is an expert in first times: she’s an ethnographer & author of Losing It: How we popped our cherry over the last 80 years. Here’s how her first time with Scarlet Ladies at Talk of the Town: Female’s Fess Up was for her:

“A safe, friendly space in which to explore a really important area of our lives alongside lots of other lovely people”

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