I was on Twitter the other night and was following some @ScarletLadies chat – they are doing this fantastic project called I Talk Sex to encourage women to speak up about sex and sexuality. I am so glad I stumbled across this wonderful campaign – I’m annoyed with myself I didn’t see it earlier, but I guess we find things at the exact moment we need to.

I think it is of huge importance that we talk about this. A friend of mine with a daughter who had sex-ed class at school told me how masturbation was talked about but only in reference to boys. I was stunned. Still? I’m sure things are changing, they have to be, and not all schools will be the same but anyway…

When I was fourteen, we had ‘the talk’ at school. A nurse came along and talked about sex education. I was furious. It might as well have been, ‘procreation education’ or more accurately, ‘don’t have sex unless you want a baby and to be honest, why the hell would you if you’re female as there’s nothing to gain from it apart from unwanted pregnancy, education’.

Even then I knew this was all wrong. As someone who masturbated to climax to relax at night for as long as I have existed (or as long as my memory) with quite in depth sexual fantasies – at times terrifying in their graphic nature, I was craving information and at the very least, acknowledgement that sex is more than baby making. Read More

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